Saturday, December 01, 2007

All Things Considered!

All things considered, I'm going to start an article on emergent relationships....human relationships....I used to write quite a few during the hey days of my blogging however have not been so pronounced from the time I moved to NY/NJ. Why? May be people in NY/NJ people whom I'm acquainted with are not relationship-emotional oriented.....they are more profit motivated...I mean material profits, career targets, real estate dreams. May be because I'm the right person at the wrong time (super narcissism)....may be because of the whole subprime meltdown (blame it on Merrill and Citi)..hahaha...it can be for a 1001 reasons and again for no 1 good reason...its for me and others to figure out.

BTW, what is a emergent relationship? well its something of a sort of flower bud..trying to bloom against all odds of fluctuating and inconducive climatic conditions. So putting it into human perspective these climatic conditions can be
  • busy schedule to find time for togetherness, or
  • defensive and cautious approach to the whole subject of committment and relationship (because of past experiences!)
  • just being overly practical and analytical (read anal :-)) about the other person
  • lack of communication between 2 persons with respect to expectations (I lost my blackberry couple of days back and that provided me some downtime to update my blog...)

However, perseverance is the key. The bud can bloom to a flower only by perseverance against these adverse conditions. So all of you out there (believe me I know so many of you now), keep your patience, keep working at it....and be convinced in what you are doing..........you waver from this conviction and a strong wind will pull down your potential bud into ground....

Let me know how you are doing....

Posted by arcane at 11:19 AM

2 comments:

Stephanie said...
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5:50 PM
Stephanie said...

The best relationships are the ones which just happen. You do not especially look for it and they just happen as they were meant to be.

Every time you open up to another person, you take the risk to suffer...to be manipulated, abused, misunderstood, criticized...and the risk not to be loved back.
Furthermore the other one has to be willing to play the "delicate game" of opening up to the other person as well, be known for who he/she really is, develop trust.

Not only that it has to be right person but it has also to be the right time. Furthermore, If you do not like yourself, how do you want to like somebody else ?
Then both have to find the right balance to remain themselves in the relationship and be part of the relationship.
Nowadays people are afraid of losing their independance in the relationship, facing the routine....

All of this takes time and work not only in a love relationship but also in a friendship. There are 3 entities in a relationship.

Very nice post by the way !

5:53 PM

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