I always wondered, how much trust my parents have in each other that they have a stable relationship of more than 35 years now.....and then I wonder, how much trust worthy can I be for my partner.
Particularly in USA, the word Trust between partners assume a dimension of mammoth proportions as kids, teens (specially of broken parents) are getting alarmingly used to break-ups and move-ons so early on in life.....before you are 14 you have 3 and 1/2 breakups (half for the one you are breaking up with currently)...consequently trust in later life becomes a serious challenge ...
Most of the times, my unambiguous, undivided trust have been trampled by my partner; My partner negotiated my trust for easiness of life, traded my trust by inflicting immense insults and all these in the name of religion, culture, skin color or family background. And I had to find consolation in the fact that the trust-bridge collapsed long before the traffic started on it (well it happened now, thats better than happening later).
Yet I want to find someone again whom I can trust. Isn't it ironic?!
Title inspired by Alanis Morissette's hit single Ironic
4 comments:
the question that bugs me is..who decreed that man has to choose a partner and stick with him/her thru years and years of drudgery? it wasnt god..if it was, tortoises would have celebrated 150th marriage anniversaries.
good 1 !
the blog is really good, though i dint understand the purpose behind chosing this as a blog subject.
It serves as a nice, thought-provoking write-up all the same...
I think a part of the problem could be explained by Newton's First Law of Motion:
"An object at rest tends to stay at rest and an object in motion tends to stay in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force"
We tend to share such an intense relationships "before marriage" for a significant period of time that marriage with the same person seems pointless.
What new would you be bringing onto the table other than a marriage certificate and irrational expectations. We subconsiously expect a significant change in our lives after marriage but having lived with each other like couples - knowing each other's flaws so well, I think that thrill to marry the same person dies down.
Sometimes love after marriage makes sense. You start understanding each other in a constant bonding scenario and no "unbalanced force" need to be adjusted for!!!
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