Anonymous me

I love those anonymous comments to my musings....they remind me of the modern day essential dilemma of privacy and transparency.
We want everything that happens somewhere (in the government, in big public enterprises etc) or sometime (say facts of assasination of JFK) or someone famous (say Jennifer Aniston's new boyfriend) to be transparent yet when it comes to 'us' we value privacy more than anything.

Being an Indian and specifically a Bengali, my sense of privacy have always been vandalised by the in-borne 'para' culture............(for the uninitiated, para/chawl/potti are colloquial terms used in India for residential communities); people in the community kind of always knew what the other families were up to (which movies they watched last week, what type of fish they are cooking today etc). Thinking that now, its kind of hilariously scary that rarely there were any deep secrets between various families in a community.

Things changed over time, and people have become conscious of privacy so much that they are up against online search engines for storing apparently innocuous data. And people now don't bother to know anything about the neighbors, whether in condos in a high rise or sprawling single home communities. We all now have suddenly become hi-strung on the privacy topic as the government and federal agencies are collecting more information about each of us than we could possibly imagine. One way or other, our privacy rights are getting compromised everytime we do a transaction with any agencies on or off the web.

We can label this para feeling as tribal in one way where people were closely tied together for various reasons. The melting-pot culture of metro cities delineated the tribal principles over time. This change in trajectory in human cohesivenes definitely would be a good topic for anthropological research. More highways, more airlines, more social networking websites, more viral marketing appears to me as means to get back to that old primal tribal being. So why atleast NOT post anonymous comments to my blog entries?

I would love to know all of you. Peace.

Isn't It Ironic?

I always wondered, how much trust my parents have in each other that they have a stable relationship of more than 35 years now.....and then I wonder, how much trust worthy can I be for my partner.

Particularly in USA, the word Trust between partners assume a dimension of mammoth proportions as kids, teens (specially of broken parents) are getting alarmingly used to break-ups and move-ons so early on in life.....before you are 14 you have 3 and 1/2 breakups (half for the one you are breaking up with currently)...consequently trust in later life becomes a serious challenge ...

Most of the times, my unambiguous, undivided trust have been trampled by my partner; My partner negotiated my trust for easiness of life, traded my trust by inflicting immense insults and all these in the name of religion, culture, skin color or family background. And I had to find consolation in the fact that the trust-bridge collapsed long before the traffic started on it (well it happened now, thats better than happening later).
Yet I want to find someone again whom I can trust. Isn't it ironic?!

Title inspired by Alanis Morissette's hit single Ironic

Questions They Ask To Decide

You have already read about the Questions to Ask Before You Decide ...now once you are ready prepare for the questions they will ask for them to decide...some samples are given for the prep..

• What are you most proud/ashamed of in your career?
• What would your team say about you as a leader/colleague?
• In what kind of working environment do you experience the most success?
• How would you handle an angry boss and flippant client?
• If you had the chance to go back and change something that you did in your current (or past) job, what would you do differently and why?
• What do you do to bring balance into your life?
• What is your greatest strength, and your greatest weakness, on the job?
• How much do you know of 'our' company and work we do? Do you have any questions/comments around our operations?

Plain updates

Just plain updates ...trying to do a lot of things to keep my mind from wandering...

Attended the awesome jazz and blues fest at Red Bank, NJ over the weekend..
Trying to get my arms around PMI courses..
Listening a whole lot to the likes of Carly Simon (you can find her top hit here)..
Had a get together of few people last week --self cooked (+ stuff by a good friend) food with good wine from down-under and NZ..
watched a couple of good films including 'Sex, Lies and Videotape', and 'Parzania'
life is good being single ...(well thats a consolation when the mind wanders)..