Day 1 @ Fort Smith: Pensive mood
After 6 months: W/ my colleagues
Sunday, September 18, 2005
Thursday, September 15, 2005
Relationships and Maturity
Eh! Bad topic. First deal with maturity. Hope that would inevitably land into something to do with relationships (keeping in mind my overworked grey cells) ;-~
Hope we all agree that maturity is something elusive that comes with age, education, exposure to different cultures, interaction with multiple communities and has nothing do with CMM (Capability Maturity Model) practices led down by Carnegie Mellon University for improving the maturity of any process(industrial, techno-commercial). Wish they had a model for improving maturity of a person or a relationship for that matter.
Univ of Wisconsin tells that "When a person can live with her past without being bogged down by it, she remains adaptable, capable of continued change, then she is mature."
The mature individual can accept her own shortcomings, realise her faults and is usually much mellowed about life. The mature person knows that she has to go on choosing alternatives, that each alternative costs something, and there are things she will never be able to do and experience, but then maturity is about giving up a lot and realizing how much to give up. She also knows that there are things she will never be able to do again, that she can never recapture the youth or relive her first encounters with certain experiences. She will give up all temptations for a cause that has long time effect. She knows that her integrity would be continually threatened by practical demands, by seductive temptations, by concessions, by conflicting values, and can only be preserved at the cost strong resolve, love for life and faith in mankind. A matured person would take that extra step (often interpreted by immatures as sacrifice or compromise) to make things happen, to keep falling pieces together, to caress a lonely heart. She would make that effort to survive a relationship that is going through a bad patch or may not have blossomed completely.
I don't see too many trendy and smart youth (both guys and gals) doing such things for their relationships; they are all about move-ons, break-ups, divorces. They are afraid to take that risk as it challenges their ego, dreams, sense of freedom and pride. They are all about take-it- easy.Definitely they are good, attractive, smart people who have a lot going for themselves but they are just afraid to settle. So most beautiful men and women have the most confused and most hazy souls. They think settling down will make them like the other 'schmucks'.
Believe me. Trust me. Having one to relate to, talk to, share your life is something so sublime and special; it makes life so easy to live and enjoy. Extend your hand for the person waiting. Your relationship deserves your maturity not whims. Amen!
Hope we all agree that maturity is something elusive that comes with age, education, exposure to different cultures, interaction with multiple communities and has nothing do with CMM (Capability Maturity Model) practices led down by Carnegie Mellon University for improving the maturity of any process(industrial, techno-commercial). Wish they had a model for improving maturity of a person or a relationship for that matter.
Univ of Wisconsin tells that "When a person can live with her past without being bogged down by it, she remains adaptable, capable of continued change, then she is mature."
The mature individual can accept her own shortcomings, realise her faults and is usually much mellowed about life. The mature person knows that she has to go on choosing alternatives, that each alternative costs something, and there are things she will never be able to do and experience, but then maturity is about giving up a lot and realizing how much to give up. She also knows that there are things she will never be able to do again, that she can never recapture the youth or relive her first encounters with certain experiences. She will give up all temptations for a cause that has long time effect. She knows that her integrity would be continually threatened by practical demands, by seductive temptations, by concessions, by conflicting values, and can only be preserved at the cost strong resolve, love for life and faith in mankind. A matured person would take that extra step (often interpreted by immatures as sacrifice or compromise) to make things happen, to keep falling pieces together, to caress a lonely heart. She would make that effort to survive a relationship that is going through a bad patch or may not have blossomed completely.
I don't see too many trendy and smart youth (both guys and gals) doing such things for their relationships; they are all about move-ons, break-ups, divorces. They are afraid to take that risk as it challenges their ego, dreams, sense of freedom and pride. They are all about take-it- easy.Definitely they are good, attractive, smart people who have a lot going for themselves but they are just afraid to settle. So most beautiful men and women have the most confused and most hazy souls. They think settling down will make them like the other 'schmucks'.
Believe me. Trust me. Having one to relate to, talk to, share your life is something so sublime and special; it makes life so easy to live and enjoy. Extend your hand for the person waiting. Your relationship deserves your maturity not whims. Amen!
Wednesday, September 07, 2005
Crossroads:Walk carefully
Life has put me in a terrible mess. A cracked ring finger on the lefthand is not the only thing thats going wrong. After a long time, I realized that my personal life is also in a mess, and Iam 28 going on 29. I have been looking for that special one (after the first breakoff) and whenever I thought I met one (@bar, @train,@concerts etc), I realize thereafter that I have been wrong. That I will not be able tolive my life with the 'one'.
I, as an Indian, believe in only one marriage for one life, and so there have been multiple times, when I had to refuse women because I knew things would not work out. Women on the other hand think Iam cute,intelligent, have a good job and make good money, cultured, friendly,caring, a-keeper and so the vicious cycle repeats on. Lets be friends or Iam confused with my life right now has been the excuses that I used..And when I think I can find whom I need, whom I have been looking for, hope God will be good enough not to make me taste my own medicine. I, the born athiest, and spiritual is ready to pray to any God to make this work. Just pray for me and my life. This is important to me. Amen!
I, as an Indian, believe in only one marriage for one life, and so there have been multiple times, when I had to refuse women because I knew things would not work out. Women on the other hand think Iam cute,intelligent, have a good job and make good money, cultured, friendly,caring, a-keeper and so the vicious cycle repeats on. Lets be friends or Iam confused with my life right now has been the excuses that I used..And when I think I can find whom I need, whom I have been looking for, hope God will be good enough not to make me taste my own medicine. I, the born athiest, and spiritual is ready to pray to any God to make this work. Just pray for me and my life. This is important to me. Amen!
Sunday, September 04, 2005
Bold Topic
This is going to be a bold topic to deal with.
How much time should you give yourself before you sleep with your date?
Iam sincerely asking for opinions and hope this one would draw some good opinions. Remember, this is true for both guys and gals who wants to love life and are based in US.
How much time should you give yourself before you sleep with your date?
Iam sincerely asking for opinions and hope this one would draw some good opinions. Remember, this is true for both guys and gals who wants to love life and are based in US.
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